My Time

måndag 22 november 2010

RL and SL disease

IN RL people tend to do this "not focused om RL"

In SL we have the IMs that take our focus away. It can also become rude if you havent agreed on how to handle this. Its difficult to stay in focus if you are answering IMs all the time and on the other hand if you dont answer IMs then that also could be rude.

You smart people :-) How do you handle this ?

Look forward to hear your smart ideas/thinking ;-)
//Styxl

The world around us...

Stress and focusing on the wrong things can make us miss things:
We tend to put our blinkers on when life starts moving to fast. Se here

Not only not seing and missing the good things in life, is a problem ! We also tend to listen in different ways depending on the mood we are in.So we translate things around us to the things we "want" to see.

Heres an example from me as Styxl. Stress can make us not see Styxl as what he is?:
Styxl is a guy/avatar that doesnt mean no harm to anyone. Still I do have a bad sense of joking and sometimes jokes can be interpreted in many different ways.
If someone knows me then they should really understand that I dont mean no harm.
Sometimes I miss a loop in my thinking and some of the jokes can turn out to become somehow misplaced. Even the sun has its spots and its difficult to be perfect without flaws and "the point of a joke" can be translated as the listener wishes.
If someone dislikes the joker then offcourse its easy to translate a joke to whatever purpose you want ;-)
If you are in a vulnerable mood then they can take jokes in a very bad way. I am the first one to apologise if I do that. Still some people doesnt accept an apology..Thats sad :-(
Still I would say that if you really know Styxl ! The you know that Styxl doesnt want to hurt people and that If thenits all due to a bad sense of humour. Please make 1+1 to 2..and not something else! If you still are in a mood to start a quarrel, then I am not interested. I am interested in reasoning but if I feel that someone really want to create drama..then I bail out. Its not worth the energy, when people are not reasonable and already have made up their mind to be more difficult than necessary.

Thx for rading
//Styxl

tisdag 2 november 2010

torsdag 28 oktober 2010

Truth and Nothing but the truth ?

The world of SL seems to be quite turbulent, especially the Swedish part.
I would say that the Day SL stops being fun then I am out from there. I hope that thats the whole point of SL. If you put a Healthy view on it.

1) A dear SL friend taught me that the easiest way to live the life in SL, is to keep trouble away. The button for that is the "mute" button. Then you dont need to get any crap and its very non Drama if you take it as a "filter" system. I use this button whenever i need to keep my SL clean. Right or wrong thats the decision i took.

2) I had two people muted that are leaving us now. I dont see it as a victory at all. I am really sad that they leave since they brought a lot of good into SL. Whatever our problems were, I am very impressed by their way of bringing bright and good ideas to SL. They brought something positive to many of my Friends.

3) I will not judge and speak about things that can have happened or not. The only thing I can say is that I have had discussions with the person involved in these several incidents. I am a tough person in many ways, but in this case, even I got frightened. I wont go into details, but I simply took the decision to protect myself and this is why I use the definition that is stated under 1)above.

Thats the way I see it and the way I act in this matter
//Styxl

fredag 15 oktober 2010

Difficult to be a human :-(

The RL world of today seems too hard to be real. Hope we are better off in the second life of ours...There we really can make a difference and offer a safe place for everyone..if we try and do it together.
This is too sad. Watch..

//Styxl

måndag 11 oktober 2010

I knew it...

"The job isn't conforming, it isn't keeping up with the Jones'. It is playing and working and loving. And loving is probably the most important. Happiness is love. Full stop." :-)

Happiness :-) (Watch the Video :-)

"Try to be Funny, Try to fall in Love with someone and try to forgive someone ;-)"

Thats how to Live both you RL and your second Life...

Doing IT
//Styxl

tisdag 21 september 2010

If you cant see yourself ?


It strikes me that the toughest thing to do isnt the furthest away.
To see who you are! To know yourself !
Around us in SL and in RL life, we influence others and we do have people who work hard on influencing others. Still it seems very hard to see who you are yourself.
There are People with strenght and drive who really doesnt see themselves.
Do they Lie on purpose and act to be mean ? No I dont think so...they just simply havent got far enough in their selfimage and got stuck on driving things in a certain way.
Believeing that they do "A GOOD THING" and are good human beings.
I have come to the conclusion in my life that changing these people is a hard thing if they dont want to see how they are and how they affect other people. Its very like an Alcoholic...its very difficult to change them if they dont realize what they are doing themselves.
What I want to say is that they probably dont mean to be mean. Sometimes they even think that they do good things since thei blindspaces are larger than others...

Take care
//Styxl

torsdag 16 september 2010

Live the moment.....

1 year ago he died. Patrick Swayze

Makes you think. Sooo important to live the moment.

//Styxl

onsdag 15 september 2010

Love

LOVE

Hugs
//Styxl

tisdag 24 augusti 2010

tisdag 17 augusti 2010

Progress ?

If people never did silly things, nothing intelligent would ever get done.

onsdag 11 augusti 2010

If Today Was Your Last Day ?

If Today Was Your Last Day Nickelback

The text made me think ! Isnt that how to live each Day, as if it was your last day?
hmm what happends to plans ? Well you still can make them cant you? Just dont let them ruin your life, meanwhile.
I think that, that line " Live you life like if today was you last Day" probably mostly means how you treat others and that you dont let "small" things ruin your Day?
Can get complex thinking about it, but still its a Nice way to treat your Day ;-)
Trouble can sometimes tend to grow to BIG inside your head. And when you "suffered those 2bad" things", then you see that you still are alive, and that life actually continues. There are happiness even after those moments, so dont let them get to Big, in your head. Still we are strongeer than we realize, so just keep thinking positivly ;-)and treat others with respect, even in your second life. Even if you hide behind an avatar then its up to you to feel good about yourself. People are good deep inside atleast,so I dont think that anyone actually really wants to be bad to others...

So try to live without the regrets....but dont give away your last dime..LOL

May the good force be with you...
//Styxl

tisdag 10 augusti 2010

Relations from the past ;-)

We all do have a past. We all had relations...
How do you handle old relations and meories from the past ?
Its very easy to remember the good times, even if there also were bad times. Should we go back or should we stay away ? Its easy to miss things from the past. Is that healthy? How should we handle memories?

No easy answers probably. You just have to use your common sense probably. Somethings might be best off just to stay as Nice memories?

If you think a lot about these things then You probably havent gone through it in your mind properly. Maybe you never dealt with it since it did hurt you? So you need to think about what happened and why you're so hung up on it. Why not write a letter to your ex friend (but don't mail it). Say everything you want to say. Then you can do something ceremonial, like ripping the letter into pieces and burning it or throwing it into the waves. You have to think of reasons why you and your ex were not meant to be. Contemplate if you are better off. In some cases, you might have screwed up really badly and you want to remain friends with this person.
Even better (depends on the current status) talk to the person and go through things and get it settled. Its always good to get things cleared.

If you still feel unsettled after some time, maybe you need to reconsider if loosing this person was the right thing to do?

Who knows, but try to just do the right thing :-)

Nice quote -->
"A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are."

Hugs from
//Styxl

"The Wise Old man"

A wise old man who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream. The next day he met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise man opened his bag to share his food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the man to give it to him. He did so without hesitation. The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime.

But, a few days later, he came back to return the stone to the wise old man.

"I've been thinking," he said. "I know how valuable this stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious. Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me this stone."

Sometimes it's not the wealth you have but, what's inside you that others need.

lördag 7 augusti 2010

The coin...


Communication is difficult in RL. As text is only 7% of all the communication needed to avoid misunderstandings, then communication gets even harder in SL. There are and will be many situations that are based on misunderstandings.
Its like a coin. We talk about the same coin. Nobody is wrong but the details are from different sides and then they dont look the same. Still we talk about the same coin. Thats where we need to be patient with eachother and listen in on what facts we are missing. The situation can get totally wrong if it is based on wrong and different input/information.

So be careful in there. Always take the time to try to get all the facts on the table. Try to get the whole value of the coin. Otherwise the Coin is worthless for both sides and we have created an unnecessary conflict situation. Lets be patient with eachother and not haste into assumptions. As the americans say: If you ASS-U-ME, then you make an ASS of both U and ME.

Hugs
//Styxl

fredag 6 augusti 2010

Successful on the outside - Bad inside ? Waste of Energy !

How come that some people forget the right values in life. They are creative and work hard to show success. Somehow this has made them forget that the lasting values are on the inside and how you behave as a human being. Sweeping stuff under the carpet doesnt give any more value than for the immediate success. Long term success and feeling good, is being a good human and having a clean inside. Being proud of how you are a s an human being and not create success for any value and forget how to be that good person.

How we handle and behave against other people is the important thing. And that we our selves know that we are good or not. If you forget that then success hasnt any value even if you hide behind an avatar in SL and sweep the truth under the carpet. We are all different, we have different backgrounds and we certainly think different. Still I think that we all have a well developed sense of what is right or wrong. Especially if we get both sides of the story. If we have the same facts then we probably KNOW what the "good thing to do" is. Then how we behave thats another story. there can be stress or even foolish pride that makes us do the wrong things. Some people can sweep that bad thing they do/did under the carpet as long as it looks good from the outside. StillI they know that they feel bad inside about it. They use energy to put that bad feeling aside, just so they can live on what the success and temporary boost gives them. Still you can never forget. Its still in there even if you did put that bad thing, you did, away. Use the right energy and take that step. Make it right, it a good investment. Temporarily it takes energy from you, but when you have killed that "bad feeling inside", in the long run you save energy and feel better about yourself. That IS an good investment. Thats what your "inner life" is all about. felling good about yourself from the inside, not trying to look good from the outside.

So take a deep dive into yourself and look at those energy thieves and the "bad things". Go to that person, sort that situation and make it good. You deserve that, to feel good about yourself and not use energy to hide that inside you.

Walk in piece
//Styxl

torsdag 5 augusti 2010

Styxl and SL ?

STYXL and SL ?
A drop in the ocean
A change in the weather
I was praying that you and me might end up together
Its like wishing for rain as i stand in the desert
But i'm holding you closer than most,
Cause you are my heaven.

I dont wanna waste the weekend
If you dont love me, pretend a few more hours, then its time to go
As my train rolls down the east coast I wonder how you keep warm
Its too late to cry
To broken to move on
And still i cant let you be
Most nights i hardly sleep
Don't take what you dont need from me

Its just a drop in the ocean
A change in the weather
I was praying that you and me might end up together
Its like wishing for rain as i stand in the desert
But i'm holding you closer than most,
Cause you are my heaven.

Misplaced trust and old friends
Never counting regrets
But a grace of god i do not rest at all
In new Second Life as the leaves change
The last excuse ill claim, i was a boy who loved a women like a little girl
And still i cant let you be
Most nights i hardly sleep
Dont take what you dont need from me

Its just a drop in the ocean
A change in the weather
I was praying that you and me might end up together
Its like wishing for rain as i stand in the desert
But i'm holding you closer than most,
Cause you are my,

Haven doesnt seem far away anymore no no
Haven doesnt seem far away
Haven doesnt seem far away anymore no no
Haven doesnt seem far away

A drop in the ocean
A change in the weather
I was praying that you and me might end up together
Its like wishing for rain as i stand in the desert
But i'm holding you closer than most,
Cause you are my heaven.

You are my heaven

STYXL and SL seems to be the never ending Love and Hate story ;-)

//Styxl

onsdag 9 juni 2010

The BIG swedish papers follows STYXLs blog...

HAPPINESS

Well Nice to have followers..(Sorry its in Swedish) so here a link in english from this article

//Styxl

måndag 7 juni 2010

What is happiness ?

Why and when are we Happy ? Isnt it just a state of mind, when you just decide that everything is OK even if it could be better ? Everything isnt perfect but still I do feel Happy right now ? Cant explain it but still the Happiness is there.

Here a few persons attempts to explain happiness !!

- Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.
Anne Frank

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
Abraham Lincoln

- "The fact that our happiness depends upon our relationship with ourself, leads to an important conclusion: that we alone are responsible for our happiness. Nobody else can make us happy and fulfilled. Only we can decide how we view our lives, and how we choose to respond to all the events in our lives."
Theun Mares - author and teacher of personal growth.

Finding joy in life isn't always effortless, but it is entirely possible. Because happiness doesn't always happen by luck or chance, intentionally pursuing it may be the best way to attain it.
Dr. Rallie McAllister


Lets find the HAPPINESS on the inside ..not race it outside :-)

//Styxl

torsdag 3 juni 2010

STYXL thinks that he is OK ;-)

IRIS

And I'd give up forever to touch you
Cause I know that you feel me somehow
You're the closest to heaven that I'll ever be
And I don't want to go home right now

And all I can taste is this moment
And all I can breathe is your life
Cause sooner or later it's over
I just don't want to miss you tonight

And I don't want the world to see me
Cause I don't think that they'd understand
When everything's made to be broken
I just want you to know who I am

And you can't fight the tears that ain't coming
Or the moment of truth in your lies
When everything seems like the movies
Yeah you bleed just to know your alive

And I don't want the world to see me
Cause I don't think that they'd understand
When everything's made to be broken
I just want you to know who I am

I don't want the world to see me
Cause I don't think that they'd understand
When everything's made to be broken
I just want you to know who I am

I just want you to know who I am
I just want you to know who I am
I just want you to know who I am
I just want you to know who I am




Isnt that a Lovely song ?
//Styxl

onsdag 2 juni 2010

Lets avoid confilcts in our SL. Lets set good example for the world

Boat to Gaza....????? Puzzles my Brain....
On one hand people who claim nonviolence and try to help or? So do they start beating soldiers in anger, because they are fritghtened or why did they prepare and get ironpipes ? Definitely not non violence action there ??? If you claim NON Violence shouldnt you go all the way ?

- On the other hand soldiers that Board a "non violence" ship and expecting non violence ? --> gets big ironpipe beating and shoots in fear ?? And how stupid to board on International water ? Probably just expecting to have a chat and scare the non violence ships off ? Why on earth do they enter on International water ?

This is a scenario again that isnt to easy to look at , even with a hard effort? Both sides could be wrong or right ? Still how the hell did this happen ? Was it sanctioned by UN or not ? Just say that this is soooo stupid and we claim to be so smart ..we humans...

Makes me sad.....

Still just another example on a conflict situation. How can we avoid those ? Lest start thinking and try to avoid conflict in our small SL...Lets see if we can ? Lets be a good rawmodel !!

Thx for reading
//Styxl

fredag 28 maj 2010

Laughing my Butt off

Just one thing to say !!

TBMcMITDSL


I Love that Guy LOL

//Styxl

söndag 9 maj 2010

Positive attitude...;-)

My Friends in SL are awsome. They helped me out, to keep the positive attitude I always thought i have. Thx to you all..its great to be part of your second life. Its better to look forward and make the future bright than look backwards. Saw an interview with a former swedish bad boy and boxer, Paolo Roberto. He said soemthing that was smart.
He said: "Look at your life as you were driving your Car. A small rear mirror and a huge window forward. Keep you attitude in that way. The future is the BIG thing and focus on that. Keep all you past in the small mirror since you can regret it and it will not come and hurt you if you have the right attitude" I liked that..that was very insightful.
So keep this Day good stay with "Carpe Diem" and sorry for not having this new swedish awsome song with English Lyrics.
MAKE MY DAY

Thx for reading
STYXL

onsdag 28 april 2010

"dom ljög och bedrog oss med sanningen" ;-)

ingenting
lyrics: J. Berg
music: J. Berg

i Hagnesta Hill
blinkar TV-ljusen
jag gör vad jag kan
drömmer mig bort
i Hagnesta Hill
bland dom identiska husen
rycker vi till
reklamen avbryts för sport

ingenting
först kom ingenting
sen kom ingenting
sen kom ingenting
men ingenting, är ingenting
dom djävlarna tog oss
en efter en
dom ljög och bedrog oss
med sanningen
dom djävlarna tog min älskning, där
från krönet av kullen kan jag se
min förlorade värld

jag ska göra nånting
jag ska slå er med häpnad
gå över en gräns
jag ska bryta mig ut
jag älskar dig så
som att vara beväpnad
och under belägring
kan jag skjuta dig ut

ingenting
först kom ingenting
sen kom ingenting
sen kom ingenting
men ingenting, är ingenting
dom djävlarna tog oss
en efter en
dom ljög och bedrog oss
med sanningen
dom djävlarna tog min älskning, där
från krönet av kullen kan jag se
min förlorade värld

ingenting
först kom ingenting
sen kom ingenting
sen kom ingenting
men ingenting, är ingenting
dom djävlarna tog oss
en efter en
dom ljög och bedrog oss
med sanningen
dom djävlarna tog min älskning, där
från krönet av kullen kan jag se
min förlorade värld

Publicity - The good force wins ;-)

The thing that makes civilisation to work is the freedom of speech. If you stay with the truth and nothing else but the truth then thruth always passes and examination. Best way to kill assault is to bring it out in the open. Tina had a post from RL Wiki leaks --> Publicity is the best weapon. Those who dont have "clean laundry" they tend to overreact and get stressed if you are determant in communication or posting the real story. It never fails..
Well normal communicating doesnt seem to work with those individuals and if you make a stress test on those persons who fall into verbal abuse then the same behaviour tends to show quite fast all over again. Threaths and abusing seems to be the thing that takes control when the conscience isnt clean and when stretching it to bringing the evidence forward then they fail and the abuse starts all over again. The public isnt stupid, so they see and can read between the lines.

May the good force be with you
//Styxl

söndag 25 april 2010

Ferdinand a good rawmodel or Not ?

Ferdinand is the story of a bull who would rather smell flowers than fight in bullfights. He sits in the middle of the bull ring failing to take heed of any of the provocations of the matador and others to fight. Sounds like someone with the right state of mind. The best thing would be if you don't allow yourself to be provoked!
Is that the right approach..or is it to boring ? Do you care or dont you care if you avoid conflicts ? Or is it just pure strenght not to go there, not bother about those low shots ?
What kind of people are those who look for these aggressive confrontations ? Is it just because they themselves are Bored, Arrogant, Stupid, Emotionally disturbed, sad, unhappy, mean......hmmm?

Should we try to be Ferdinand or should we fight back ?

Thx for reading
/Styxl

måndag 19 april 2010

Assumptions...

I always get amazed how fantastic SL is. A lot of possibilites with all the amazing oportunities we do have. Also there is a fact that communication possibilites are limited, you can hide behind your avatars and it is also difficult sometimes to see behind the avatars. This makes some things complicated and gives room for Assumptions. Assumptions on both directions..Good and bad. Some people always assume the worst and others are very vournable since they dont hide and in an honest way show their feelings. They keep their door open and show who they are. To talk about things and dare to show what you feel is a strenght that not eveybody have. Hopefully we all will mature and reach that level of honesty and openess. Assumptions will always be there and also the worst kinds. As long as you as a person know who you are and feel proud of who you are and how you behave, then there isnt a lot of thee assumptions that really can hurt you. You would think that atleast. Still you get a little sad, if you are not made of steel. Assumptions are not flattering to anybody. There is an American saying I think tells it all. "When you ass-u-me, then you make an ass of both me an you". The worst thing and what hits me is how easy it is to assume. It so easy to get hurt, be hurt, get stuck in unnecessary conflicts du to assumptions.
I am happy about my SL since I know I have some really good friends. Friends that I can talk with and that dont assume. They are really interested in who you are and how you behave. If there is something that they dont understand, they ask. And then they get an honest answer and then they trust that information/feedback. Communication is the key to everything and specially in SL. I am very lucky to have these friends and they are amazing people. This is a great thing about SL, thet I would never have met them If I wasnt here.
How should we value other people to be better humans all together. We should value other people by always tying to think the best..not the worst. I really do think that most of us are good human beings with the best of intentions. Sometimes communications go wrong. Sometimes we see things, dont get all information necessary and think the worst. This doesnt bring the right value to anybody.
We have had some turbulence here in our Swedish SL and I there are smart and observant people here that do good things. VALUE...I think that is what Tina "Petgirl" Bergman is trying to bring to our Swedish SL. I think that it is very observant to see the needs in a community and it all falls back into these basic human behaviours and the need of commnication and understanding. If all info is on the table and we all can se clear, then things dont get so complicated and so messy. Then we should be able to solve the issues and get along real fine... ;-)

Thx for reading
STYXL

torsdag 15 april 2010

Smarter in SL ?

Heard on the swedish RADIO.

According to resurch then the taller you are the smarter and better wages you get.

In SL we are all very much taller than in RL. I am way over 2 meters.This should then mean that we are much smarter in here than in RL. hmm could that be the reason that we find more to argue about ? Just makes me wonder, when I read all our bloggs. I was hoping that getting smarter should give us a broader mind and then we should get better in avoiding conflicts.

Hmm I might be wrong there...*LOL*

Thx for reading
//Styxl

onsdag 14 april 2010

Home sweet home ;-)

SL always puzzles me..and its weard, how having a home in SL makes a difference. Thought about not having a home. Noticed that I couldnt set home any place. Missed the shortcut home..You feel homeless and everything gets complicated, so I decided to fix the problem. So I got a new home in Haven.
Just fixed and moved in toNight..and got amazed of the cozy feeling. I feel real good having my own place. Its amazing in SL how that feeling can get to you.
How about that. *smiles*

A Happy
//Styxl

tisdag 13 april 2010

SL and drama

I was just dragged through a very unpleasent and very weard experience. One of our most distinguised SIM owners approached me yesterday. I was attending an event last week, and this person came at me with an aqusitation that I didnt behave well and had offended some of this persons guests ? Naturally I didnt rememeber having done anything like that. Well I gave feedback that I didnt remember anything of this sort and never have had any intention of harming anyone in that place. Someitmes My jokes might go bad but I had no memory of this at that event. This person didnt apologise for the aqusiation. So It felt a little weard, So naturally earlier today I checked with some people and obviously nobody had seen or heard me do anything wrong at the event. So happy about this I went back and told this person about my findings. This person got very upset and got very mad. I tried to keep my calm and managed to leave without any bigger problems. Later this person took me away from the friendlist and well that would have been OK in my book. But then suddenly, after taking me away, the person started with the most vulgar language through IM. As I am not interested in this or any unecessary kind of "drama" in SL I simply just Muted, as I wasnt even remotely interested in being more insulted and not even qurious of where this would go. Felt good..Puh.

Still this is the kind of strange and weard behavioure that happens in SL. There you stand and do not understand anything. The communication patterns in SL are very limited. It is sad but in these cases the Mute function is very useful.Still when you are a human being with feelings then you sit her puzzled, in the middle of the night and not able to sleep. Its strange and weard how people that you dont spend time with and rarely can find such hate and bad language. I cant in my wildest phantasies see what I could have done to make this kind of behavioure justified. Hopefully it was just a bad day for someone. Hopefully there will be a short message about that and an apology. I always have hope for people and that they know how to behave and solve mistakes that happen. That is still OK i my book.

Hopeing for a happy ending
//Styxl

torsdag 8 april 2010

My Friend Ikaros - The DJ

How about that...I have this friend..his name is somtimes IKEAros haha... but actually it is Ikaros. He is one of the nicest and kindest people I know. He is an excellent DJ. Well thats what I think and many more, but he doesnt. So then I have to point out that he actually is and he has an excellent taste for music.I also think that he Loves being a DJ so I hope that he will get a lot of offers to be a DJ so he can do what he Loves.

So why is he good ? Well he has an feeling for the people and plays what he thinks the crowd needs. If there is romance going on then he supports that immediately when he spots it. He is the master of V3 Theres comes slow and Lovely song, when you need it the most ;-). He remembers what people like so the tries to get each one atleast one song that they Love... I did loose a song from way back in the past and then he kinda by accident played it an I am very grateful. Here it is the SONG

Hope he finds his way back to be a DJ. I will keep my eyes open and come to any place where he plays.

/Styxl

onsdag 7 april 2010

Who can I trust if not my own brain ?

Well we all are human beings and not a single one of us are perfect and flawless. The only thing we can rely on is what we have managed to store in our brains. Whatever we have in there needs to be trusted as the instincts that they give to us. There is an amazing amount of stuff stored in there and there is nothing else that we know of. Some of the stuff give us stronger signals than other. They tend to dominate and the ones that control our feelings seem to be the strongest. Some of us let these feelings come out and we show them as they are. Others have better control of them and the strenght to keep them back.

In SL the thing that shines through our avatars is the stuff that we have in our heads. Doesnt matter how and what we do try to hide, then finally that stuff shines through and we show our selves. Its probably more difficult to not show yourself in RL than in SL. That might be one of the tricky parts of the second Life.

There are strong feelings that shine though:
- Anger is one and that one is hard to control, but we learn everyday we live. Some have more of it than others, depening of our experiences.
- Sorrow is a very strong feeling also. As anger it can hide and with some fuel it takes over and dominates.
- Love. Well thats a Nice and strong one also. Sometimes it is followed by sorrow or even anger. Some are Lucky and stay in the zone :-)

There are a lot of feelings and we all are colored by our past. Hopefully we all can get better and better control of our brains and enjoy the life we live more and more. Sorry to say the process takes time..so try to enjoy the ride...

Carpe Diem
//Styxl

måndag 5 april 2010

The SL feeling...

Just been browsing many of my SL friends blogs... I found several that have had the same feeling that I have had, and lost it for a while. Suddenly you found inspiration again. You need to have "Inspiration" to live SL...its not just a place to drop into :-) It is a 2nd life and it needs to be lived also. Loosing Second Sweden was a hard blow to many and also me. Still miss that place and the place we had where we always felt we had a meeting place and where we always felt at home even if we had our actual "SL homes" somewhere else. Still miss the feeling of Second Sweden....but still feel that I have that feeling virtually inside me. The feeling of "belonging together" is there, strong and we dont need a place to feel it even if it would be Nice.

Think I have found a compromise and SL will still be a part of my life. I will be myself and I will try to be the person that I am...as usual.

Thx for being good friends. I could name a list but you really know who you are. You are many and I hope that you feel that I really do Love you as friends...You are so many talented and good persons in SL and I am proud to have you as my friends. The weard thing is that many of you are still not on my friendlist and many are. I am trying to change that..and get you on that list :-) Some of you were added at easter and some will be added when we stumble into eachother again.

Thx for being there
Hugs
//Styxl

lördag 3 april 2010

Crawling back...

Crawling

Thx Zigadena...for the Nice approach.
I came in toNight and I realized that I missed my friends...in SL.
Was great to visit RajRaj again...

Love you Guys...Hugs

//Styxl

söndag 28 mars 2010

SL versus Styxl ?

SL is a place that needs to be defined. I am taking a leave and try to digest what SL really is. I think that you need to be away to get that "Heureka" feeling. SL is the nicest place and it also can be the worst place. There is something there and I need to put my finger on it. I have some theories...I will give you one at the time (from safe distance) and we will see if we find some answers.

SL - the big town ?
Its a little like the big RL town versus the little RL village on the country.
- In the small village in the country you cant hide. Everybody knows everybody and you cant really hide. You are who you are and you cant hide anywhere.
- In the big city you can hide..you can live out and be what ever you want. You can live more anonymous. Its a place to hide.

SL gives us all the options and it is up to us how we handle it.

STYXL - The village guy ?
STYXL as such he acts like he lives in the small village and is very clear and careful to show who he is. He is the same RL and SL. That might be right or wrong....maybe you are supposed to be something else in SL ? Maybe total honesty is not what SL is all about...maybe it is supposed to be the big city where you can mind your own business and keep others far away, jus to be safe ? To mix RL and SL as it comes to feelings, maybe is dangerous. Maybe SL really is a game...and STYXL is playing it wrong ? Or maybe it is a part of life...but just the second part of it.

Is there really a need for a second life in your Real Life ? Or is it a game....that you play, just to have fun in RL ?

Thx for reading...
Next theory soon...
Kisses and Huggies
//Styxl

lördag 27 mars 2010

STYXL lost it......

...and loosing it means that he takes a break from SL. He lost the feeling for SL.
The time for the break is not set. It might be forever or only until he is ready again.
He might write here once in a while, but he is definitely staying out from SL.
Take Care friends and people that I Love in there. I am available through g-mail: styxl.gurbux@gmail.com

Thank you for caring and reading
//Styxl

tisdag 16 mars 2010

Just hope it is worth it ?

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy; they just promised it would be worth it....

//Styxl

lördag 13 mars 2010

To loose someone...

Love is a powerful thing. It can take us to the highest levels and it can cause so much pain that you dont know how to survive. Abstract forces grabs your heart and squeeses all the energy out of it in a painful way. We are many that have experienced that and everytime you say: Never again. There are different ways of loosing the one you Love. However when it happends,it is the most painful thing ever. For us in Second Life it can be hard to explain to people around us, how this pain sometimes is even stronger than for feelings in RL. When I came into SL I didnt believe in falling in Love in a person behind an graphical 3D avatar.Now I know the oposite and how strong it can be. Sometimes the distance makes it harder and you feel powerless since you have limited tools to express yourself. And then to explain to people "like I was in RL" doesnt get the situation easier. Thats when we need eachother in here. its no game..we are real people behind the avatars. Somepeople behind the avatars are even more beautiful than we could imagine or realize before we got to know them. We need to take care of eachother and support eachother if there isnt enough undertstanding in RL. Probably this is where my "fear" of alts and hiding becomes so strong, since I fear the pain they can cause.

Feelings are difficult to expect how they work. I always feel very bad when relatives die and I hardly feel anything, just being sad. And when my pet dies then you are more sad. And when you loose the one that you Love then your pain is so unbearable that you hardly know how to survive. Its so different how we can handle that.

I am a person behind my avatar that has a hard time falling in Love. That Love that is so hard to find gets really painful just in the fear of loosing it. Loosing Love is probably the worst feeling there is. It cant be measured but my experience is that it is the worst thing that you ever can imagine. I dont know if there are levels in the actual pain from losing in different ways. Loosing someone that you Love never is easy.It takes a long time to recover, atleast for me. Recovery might be the appropriate word since you never loose the actual Love. It will stay in there forever when it was the true kind. just take time to be able to take the edges that hurt off and smooth them out slowly so you can save it as a precious pearl in your heart and then it causes less pain and might bring joy of being able to Love like that, instead of the pain of not having it anymore.

We still have to have the courage to Love and give our heart to someone. As i see it its worth it. What should we do with a world without Love ???

with Love
//Styxl

söndag 31 januari 2010

Faith in people with several identitys..

Alts as they are callled...a second or 3rd Identity ? What is that all about ?

Second Life can be seen in different ways. A playground or just another life ? However you see it there are people in here. We always need to take care of eachother and avoid to hurt people. It is a free world and thats why I write about how i see this alt thing.

I want to have friends in here. I even Love someone ;-) That is part of second life. For Styxl this is just another way of interacting with human beings.There has been a discussion about alts in the Swedish community lately. Several cases of double identities has turned up. We all think different. In my case I am very strict about this. Its all about trust. If someone brakes it with me thats it. Then they can think as they want. It is a tough world in here anyway. People hide behind avatars and it takes time to get to know them and gain trust. Worst thing is that people get hurt. Having another identity next to the one I know, would upset me a lot and have done in the past. It is a matter of trust. Even if I dont worry about being fooled by another identity since I always stand up for my behavioure, then you it still creates a certain "wild west" feeling. Unmaturity and danger.
Examples:
- Being with someone and having a second identity is the worst case of betrayal I could imagine.
- Being worried for someone that has disapeared and then it turns out that this person is in here and kickin and alive is disturbing. Cause then you worry about this person and think this persons feels so bad about SL, and then it wasnt the case. also betrayal in my eyes. Even if you left your friend (they are not friends anymore) and look for new ones it is a cold way to behave.I dont like tht kind of behaviour at all. That just hurts..
- Stalkers and other sick behaviours needs to be reported to Linden Labs and I really hope that they connect alts with their original and warn then or block them entirely. They can come back as someone else but still this needs to be done. There are rules for both Internet and for Second life there are "Goals for second life" and more strict rules of second life. I always recomend to reportsince Linden Labs can see hopefully see who the Alts really is. There are lawbreakers both in SL and RL so we will never get rid of those.

We are all allowed to be in here but we need to try to take care of eachother and basicly hurting people isnt accepted. Then we can do as I and if I feel that I cant trust someone then I just avoid that person. Thats easiest...

Why do people have alts ?
- Hmm to much time on their hands..;-)
- There are a base of wanting to be anonymous. They have created an alt and want to be someone else. Hmm didnt something go wrong with the other one then ? Please analyse yourself and try to become better. Is there really a need to be someone else ? hmmm we need to learn from life and live with our mistakes. It really doesnt fix it to hide again?
- Cheaters ...well that is obvious not a healthy behaviour.
- Evil people. Well they are in here to-sorry to say --> report
- Unmaturity..hmm probably the most usual reason...
- others that make you need an alt. Hmm then the others have won. Why not stand up and cleane this place up. report also sexual harassment, Ladies. Please do...always. Its up to Linden to warn. One warning can be wrong but several then they see the behavioure and handle that avatar. Hope that helps someone else...

Thx for reading
//Styxl

söndag 17 januari 2010

Knowing yourself....

We have one life...(well in the current anyway and thats another discussion)

What strikes me is that there is a lot to learn about ourselves, and that you never will learn it all. Its not easy. It is difficult just to handle your own self and the feelings that you have. When meeting someone else, then it gets even more difficult, so it is very important to find that open and honest communication.

Knowing yourself well there are many models to explain what it is all about. One of the keys is probably not to lie to yourself. If you make up lies about yourself inside you, then it is easy to slip in to a mode where you even lie to others. In SL it is more important than in RL to have yourself figured out, since the communication here is made with so low procentage of what we need.

I am impresssed by the ones of you who can keep that "straight" line (Damn-"straight" into the trap again, need to watch out for Dr Ruth ;-) and keep your relations alive in here. there are many of you and I am really impressed by you as human beings. And when we discuss these things and you comment, then I realize that you have it almost figured out. I have to write almost since nobody ever probably will learn it all. Most of all congratulations to knowing yourselves very well, and thereby being able to achieve those long relations in here.

Then relations have their difficulties but then that platform, knowing yourself, will help you and have helped you through different kind of difficulties that turn up in SL and out there In RL. Those you need to solve together...anyhow.

Thx for reading
//Styxl

lördag 16 januari 2010

The Kiss......

Had a adventure yesterday, caused by Puff. Read more about it on Bocks blog ;-) Have to thank Bock and Ars, for being kind and sensible about the whole story and My Love in this life Suteruni for being so understanding. Big hearts and also a very Nice sense of humour helped to sort this out in the best of ways.

To really come out from the closet then I think I need to tell you the whole background story (in short), and that is mostly coming from my RL life. Through the years I have had some experiences with being approached and been "Hit on" from members of the same sex. Last time was on this new years eve actually, in a warm exotic country.
I can understand women being tired of guys hitting on them in a "blunt" way. I have experienced that, and that resulted in starting to using my sense of humour and describing me as having the "Image" of being slightly "homofobic", but more with the definition of "Not having anything against anybody, as long as they leave me alone, as in approaching" ;-) !!

And when "Dr Ruth" was brought into an ambitious mode in this SL world then she obviously couldnt read between the lines and understand the state of me knowing and knowing me and started her very hillarious research. This research ended up in the Nice story that you can read all about on Bocks Blog...

hmm that maybe gave the theme on my next Bloging --> "knowing yourself...."
Thx for reading
//Styxl