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lördag 24 oktober 2009

The first to Love ?

Love and Pain. Ouch how can we avoid that...? Probably not...but lets keep the item open..LOL
The key to happiness, probably is that you really, really are ready for LOVE, when it turns up.
The the first important key is to Love yourself and be satisfied with the
life that you live...

So when out of Love then t be the most important thing to create a path to happiness, with starting to Love yourself and who you are ?

You need to be you ! "You who are afraid to be you"

LOVE yourself is important. They say that "You cant Love anybody else before you Love yourself". So the first to Love is YOU !!!

Relations based on anything else probably will cause the pain we have been talking about.
Its getting complicated...(Probably I should stick to Golf LOL) and you need to be in the "Zone" to REALLY make it work ? Ouch..endless happiness seems complicated Ouch..that also hurts to realize. Really a lot of stuff that have to work..

Lets see:
- You need to be ready with yourself and Love YOU...
- You need to find someone that also is ready and Loves herself/himself
- Both need to do as in Poker " All in" and still with somekind of relaxed attitude. (Difficult if you were not happy with you life before the Love)
- You need to have mutual trust and understanding - So important is to Communicate. Really communicate with trust and honesty. So if there are "Firewalls" then we are bound to fail ?
- Your friends needs to accept and help out (otherwize ? ..hmm bah screw them -LOL-)
- Compromising - probably is vital ? (2 people are not cut and pasted to fit eachother 100% and definitely they havent lived their lifes to be perfect matches)

OOOH ther are more ? HEEELP.....friends lets see where this list ends ? Styxl need your comments.

Wow it looks complicated and if the basis for the relationship isnt there then we will suffer the pain and all the other stuff we have been talking about.

Thx for all Nice Comments and feedback...I am not afraid to be me...You can be sure of that folks. So this is probably why I have the guts to make a fool out of me..LOL and blogg about LOVE and feelings...
THX 4 Readin and being active.. (Even in English)

3 kommentarer:

  1. You have it all wrapped up as usual I think! =) But playing a "game" with each other is something I personally don´t like... Some people do that...

  2. Well I'm glad you are not sticking to golf;-)
    Personally I think true happiness you can only find in moments not like for a lifetime.
    True love you can find for a lifetime but very unusually these days and you are right... first love yourself before you can love somebody else.
    The lifetime love without pain is indeed compromising, talking, discussing... well, I guess for me I will stick to my moments of happiness:-)

  3. I will now run the risk of beeing seen as the boring philosopher I truly am with a long qoute from Derrida's "Politics and Friendship":

    "I love you," must remain unilateral and dissymmetrical. Whether or not the other answers, in one way or another, no mutuality, no harmony, no agreement can or must reduce the infinite disproportion. This disproportion is indeed the condition of sharing, in love as well as friendship. In hatred as well as in detestation. Consequently, the desire of this disproportion which GIVES without return and without recognition must be able not to count on "proper agreement," not to calculate assured, immediate or full comprehension. It must indeed desire that which goes to make the essence of desire: this non-assurance and this risk of misunderstanding.